This definition of a rapist is any man who "pressures a woman for sex" doesn't make sense

Shit, I think my brain's stupidity-censor must have filtered that out on the way through. There's probably no point in trying to reason with that extreme a starting view.

I agree with you about the men in firefly though - Mal, Jayne and Wash are clearly the more clueless of the crew in most situations, and Simon and Book are not typical men for the culture that's being portrayed.