My Early Muir Owl

[matgb]

OK, snapesbabe proposed to me by dropping a fairly big hint in an email and then saying yes when I rang and said are you asking me to marry you? This guy? Might just possibly have planned it a little bit too much. Incredibly well done though; metro_weird has the full story or alternately you could just watch the YouTube.

Hmm, on a different note, worth observing. When we met in February, we had two mutual friends on LJ (ginasketch and freddiefraggles. Now, through us meeting each others friends and simply talking about each other and to each others friends, we have 60 mutual friends. Since we announced the engagement just under two weeks ago, I've been added by 13 more people (which is quite scary). As I've always tried to keep the total accounts I read (including feeds and communities) below 500, in order to keep up with actual, RL friends and friends of friends, I've removed a chunk of feeds and some actual LJs; I believe most of these to be dormant, but others are simply people I've not really connected with or even heard from much recently. I still have too many accounts friended, but I don't read the blog feeds and similar on my default--for those wondering, every LJ account I've got on my list is on my default, and is also on one of my three main filters, but only those people I've met in person are on my "always going to backread unles impossible" filter; also, all my viewing filters are public and linked from my sidebar. Some people set great store by these things, so just thought I'd say.

Oh--I haven't added back a few accounts that I believe to be spammers or serial adders, if that's not the case? Well, my userinfo does say to say hello. I'm still busy with various things, and not feeling 100%, my system is rebelling against me currently. Ah well. A few other posts to follow next few days about various projects (I hope).

Comments

[baseballchica03.livejournal.com]

Dude, that all seems a biiiiit much. I would be so embarassed if someone did that and would probably flee the place. I hate being the center of attention. When I go to sporting events and see "marry me?" messages up on the scoreboard, I'm completely mortified for the girl. What the heck? Of course, I'm more of a private person about that sort of thing, and I guess it's all about knowing your partner and whether she would appreciate that or say yes to avoid a scene then secretly smother you in your sleep.

[matgb]

I think you're right though, it's up to the individual; she obviously reacted incredibly well, he knew her well enough to tie it in well.

Others might not do so, in which case, well, proposals might get refused.

[fearmeforiampink]

The last bit is why I think that public proposals are a bad idea. It put the other person under too much pressure, it's not fair, if what they honestly want to say is "No" or "Not yet"

[cosmolinguist]

My first boyfriend planned to propose to me at a baseball game. I found this out only after I broke up with him the week before. I'm so glad I caught it before it happened!

[matgb]

I dunno—there's a little part of me that would relish the public humiliation you could mete out to him. Because if he's doing that sort of daftness without being sure, then he's deserving of a good kicking really.

But then, I do have a strong nasty streak at times.

[greyarea.livejournal.com]

That should be utterly, utterly nauseating, but in a strange way I found it rather sweet. Probably the Sigur Ros soundtrack.

But yeah - you'd really need to know that she was going to love it. The public proposal thing alone would have been enough to have me running for the hills.

[draich-goch.livejournal.com]

Ha, I was the master of romance and asked my wife to marry me ............................................................. on the way to do the shopping! Beat that!

She said "Not if you don't ask me properly", so I got down on one knee in the middle of the supermarket and asked her. Luckily for me (and probably unluckily for her) she said yes, that was nearly 16 years ago now.

[matgb]

See this? This I did not know.

You great big loon.

[miss-s-b.livejournal.com]

(O_O)

On the one hand, I'm kind of feeling bad that I wasn't quite up to snuff. On the other hand, I was terrified enough that you'd say no to a gentle hint via email; I think I'd have possibly died of terror had it been public.

[matgb]

kind of feeling bad that I wasn't quite up to snuff

Silly moo; I liked the way you did it, so very us. The way he did it was obviously suited to them, but it matters not.

But yeah, asking publicly is only good if you absolutely know the answer—although why you thought there was any doubt is still utterly beyond me.

[miss-s-b.livejournal.com]

* drags toe on floor, blushes and giggles *

Maybe I thought you had more sense?

[matgb]

I think we've got just the right amount of sense for each other.

ie: not much at all, really.

[miss-s-b.livejournal.com]

I think you might be right there.

I actually reached for your hand at one point in the film before remembering you weren't there. That's a bit worrying.

[matgb]

Just a bit; plz2b not going a bit Glenn Close on me? That'd be scary.

[miss-s-b.livejournal.com]

You haven't even GOT a rabbit!

[missdiane.livejournal.com]

It seemed fitting to me - you met online, hence you propose online.

Though the wedding will totally NOT be online because I want to give hugs, darnit! Ok, and also I totally want to wear a dress that pushes my modest boobages up to the "woo hoo lookit THESE!" stage

[miss-s-b.livejournal.com]

Well, I think the wedding will have to have some online presence, due to the fact that some people will undoubtedly be unable to make it.

Hmm. Maybe we need an official wedding blogger...

[susanne-est-moi.livejournal.com]

Oh dear. The poor girl probably couldn't say no after something like that!

Tis like when people propose on the gigantic screen at the baseball games. It would be moritifying for everyone involved to say no, so the proposee always just says yes and probably gives the proposer a proper whack later.

[purplehez.livejournal.com]

Eeek, imagine if she'd said no!

And this is is me saying hello. Actually been meaning to add you for a while - hope you don't mind!
Sorry for being one of the Scary People! lol

[matgb]

Mind? I've thought of doing similar every time I've seen your icon, so no, not at all.

Besides, I like scary—better than boring and normal...

[curlywhirly.livejournal.com]

Since this seems to be the appropriate entry for commenting on... am adding you since we're friends on facebook 'n' all, but worry not about adding me back, since I know your FL must be out of control! Just want to keep up with your side of the whole aaaaaaaaaawfest.

^_~

[matgb]

Vaguely out of control, yes—I may just give up at some point on the controlling it front, but for now, we're good.