LJ- oh, teh drama!11!!1

[matgb]

Hmm. Anyone fancy a giggle?

It all started with a post to suggestions. I read it in a state of confusion, going "why don't you just hide 'friends of' if it's causing you a problem?" So I read the comments thread and found everyone else commenting had the same reaction or similar. Then, someone made a comment about the person in questions "friending rules". That comment is now screened, as is my response, I suspect the original poster didn't like the statement of the obvious it entailed.

Go read the link, but on the grounds the idiotindividual in question may change it, I repeat the main points for your entertainment pleasure. Actually, some people may find this sort of mocking cruel. OK, I'm a cruel mean bastard (yeah, right).

Hear ye, hear ye!

Listen now to the

1. I add you first. Not vice versa.

2. If you do add me before I add you, I reserve the right to explore your journal and see whether you're worth adding.

3. If I don't see anything that makes me suspicious, you're in. Congratulations.

4. If there is material that is offensive to me, or to anyone on my Flist, I will request that you defriend me. Please do so immediately.

5. If, however, you have no entries in your journal for me to read, you have no business owning an account in the first place. You will not be added.

6. A note to Christians and Republicans: I don't get along with you. In order to avoid conflict, please do not under any circumstances add me.

7. Since I am an intelligent woman, and all of my friends are equally intelligent, I prefer that only the intelligent add me. People with IQs that dip into the negative strata are not welcome.

8. I reserve the right to defriend at will, with or without warning. Usually with.

9. If you say or do anything that I consider repulsive while on my Flist, or you do or say something that one of my friends would find offensive, you will be informed that your behavior is unacceptible. You will also be removed from my Flist immediately. If the offense is bad enough, you will even be banned.

10. My journal is Friends-only for a reason. Friendships are based on trust. Please show discretion and courtesy toward my entries. I will gladly do likewise.

11. If you should ever decide that you must defriend me, please do not leave a comment explaining your reasons. I'm not that interested, and it will only lead to conflict.

12. If you have a problem with my entries (which would make you either a fundamentalist Christian or a conservative Republican), don't feed me your little hissy fit. You're not as special as you think you are.

13. If you're younger than sixteen, please behave yourself. I'm not your babysitter.

14. This journal is rated R.

Thank you for your time.

I guess I don't get the entirely 'friends only' approach to LJ. It sort of makes sense if you only ever post personal stuff, but is everything always so deeply personal?

And if you have posted something entirely friends only, where are you going to get new lj-friends from? Surely if it's someone you don't actually know, you're going to want to read a bit before you 'add' them? If it's one post alone? Unless it's someone I know or a recommendation, I just go away again.

But that list of 'requirements'? Including 'don't add me first', despite posting entirely friends only? What we have there is an example of "I don't read the FAQ or indeed think for myself". Now, probably because of this silly list, someone is setting up spammy joke acconts and friending her with them. So, to respond to this, she's suggested LJ change its structure as a "security risk". Newsflash! Someone lj-friending you doesn't affect you in any way.

Since I am an intelligent woman, and all of my friends are equally intelligent, I prefer that only the intelligent add me.

Right. We hold these things to be self evident. Merely stating this in this way invalidates the claim, n'est ce pas?

Ah well. People. Not always clever.

For those out there reading this that are entirely friends only, is there a reason why? If you write a film review, or a quick link/discuss on a news story, why f-lock it? I favour the mixture approach myself, it makes more sense to me.

Comments

[waka-laka.livejournal.com]

I'm not that much of a friending Nazi... but I do have friending rules, or at least something similar. I like to think I have friending rules because I don't really want people who I have nothing in common to add me. But then again, it could be argued that the only thing I have in common with you is that we live near each other. But still, I like to have friending rules to stop 'ppl ho tlk lyk dis' adding me, so in a way I guess I'm kinda like that woman.

But having said that, I add everyone who asks me to add them, so I guess it's all kinda pointless. XDD That woman sounds quite up herself though, as if it'd be an honour to have her added or something.

A lot of my earlier posts are unlocked and I'm working on making them all friends only, the only reason being because all of my recent posts are friends only and I like everything to be neat and together. Why am I completely f-locked now? Mainly because I don't like the idea that anyone could type in my URL and read my bitchings and rantings, especially if it concerns them. I don't know, I think I just like to know who's reading my journal, I guess.

[waka-laka.livejournal.com]

Wow, I said 'but' a hella lot in that. I'm ashamed of my bad grammar skillz, yo.

[faeriecween.livejournal.com]

probably caused by all that caffeine you mentioned earlier.....

[waka-laka.livejournal.com]

Haaaaaw?

[faeriecween.livejournal.com]

wrong window.... sorry my msn is messing about and hadn't moved the cursor over....

[matgb]

Yo?

You ended a comment with yo?

*goes to cut*

*thinks better of it*

You're right though, we have not much in common other than locality and internet obsessions. But thou, mostly, amuse me.

And at some point I may make use of your ability to actually understand the S2 editing system...

[waka-laka.livejournal.com]

Come on, I couldn't have a 'skillz' without a 'yo'. It just wouldn't be right! :)

And S2? I'm an S1 whore, all the way...

[matgb]

See? See how little I get about LJ styling? I can't tell the difference between the two.

[waka-laka.livejournal.com]

*grins* S2 is for people who have no idea how to customise, S1 is overrides and coding and all that jazz. Pretty much.

[matgb]

I just want a page I can open, edit the source and upload it.

I want to amend my current style myself, by looking at how it works and changing it. Huge advantage of Blogger is the way you can mess around with the template if'n you want to.

Ah well. I'll stick to this one for a bit, it works, and the tweaks are quite nice.

[innerbrat]

Yeah, because it's impossible to do an original customised, overridden layout in s2. Yep.

>_>

[waka-laka.livejournal.com]

I didn't say that, but you have to agree that for the majority of LJ users, S1 would just be impossible, which is why S2 exists. It's more user-friendly.

[innerbrat]

At a basic level, yeah. I use it because of the flexibility of the views (entry view at first, now I tag all my entries.)

S1 is easier to customise beyond what's available for each style, though. To really edit a style in S2 requires wading in through the code, while S1, IIRC from my use of it, can be done with generic knowledge of HTML and CSS.
The easiest style in S2 to customise in Flexible Squares (which I am in the process of editing for mine, and which many of my RP journals have un-edited) because it lets you use an external CSS, but S1 is still more flexible that way.

S2, though gives a more cohesive journal, IMO, which is why I am its bitch.

(although I want to know how Mat got that toolbar at the top of his layout. I may have to snaffle it)

[matgb]

Busy at work.

Edit userinfo, turns the new toolbar on. Custom styles need to be amended to get it to display, for which component_help will probably be useful.

I'm using the Nebula standard theme, so all I had to do was click 'on'.

[innerbrat]

Awesome.

'Course, I've lost the respect I had for you as a 1337 LJ Style h4x0r (OK< I give up, I can't pull it off)

But still, awesome. Ta.

[matgb]

Meh, I can code a website fine, I can even (now) get all my Divs to line up almost right.

What I can't do is LJ. Yet.

[innerbrat]

What you need then, is to use Flexible Squares and link to an external stylesheet.

(innerbratis a very slightly modified flexible squares, as is princeinexile. copper_fray and ms_ntropy are both the same layout with different stylesheets)

Or spend the Easter weekend just prodding at the layer. S'really not that complicated; the hardest part is tracking down the relevant property names, as the online documentation's not all that easy to navigate at first.

[matgb]

Hmm, this 'Easter weekend' thing.

Is that when the rest of the country have 4 days off and us service sector types forget to check what's open or pay bills early?

What I can't figure out is actually where to start, whenver I get an 'edit' page it's not actually telling me anything that I can change of any use.

Which is why I don't bother; show me the code, I'll mess with it, but I can't find them.

Admittedly, not actually bothered looking to hard, I'm spending time sorting out the new sites.

Ought to figure out a way to make comments work better in this theme though, never had 40 comments on a post since I switched. not sure I've ever had 40 comments.

Weird. LJ drama seems to be a popular discussion point...

[innerbrat]

Hokay. What you wanna do?

Go here. That's from manage -> customise -> advanced customisation -> public layers -> Nebula

There's your code for Nebula. Copy it.

Then go here.
That's from advanced customisation -> Your layers.

Create Top Level Layer: Layout. Click 'create'

Paste your code.

Then tinkle!

(*cough* Obviously tinkling isn't that easy, mind)

[matgb]

Yeah, but virtually all of your posts are personal. That I get, if you're talking school/work/friends, then f-locking it is something I get.

But if it's a random funny with no rants or mentions of others/real life?

It was an open post of yours that I first read that prompted me to say hello IIRC, I'd always keep some poublic posts up just so people can get a 'feel'.

If it's a 'journal' entry, then knowing whp's reading it makes sense. But a 'funny' post or a 'blog' style post?

Meh. I just found her list of rules so daft they needed sharing.